My parents moulded my brother and I into bookworms when we were younger, who then got lost within the world-wide web; however, my book loving nature is seeming to return.
You will find me reading something fictional with a moral or something to enhance my perspective and open my mind. The genre of these books come under Spirituality & Beliefs - Mind, body & spirit, in Waterstones so let’s go with that.
The first book of this kind I read was The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. (I'll leave a link to it at the end!)
This book introduced me to the Law of Attraction and as I result I looked in to what it was and what I can gain from it.
To help those out who are unsure of what I’m talking about and don’t want to read the book, I’ll give you the definition from thelawofattraction.com.
“Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe – one of which being the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts, and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.
This is why the universe is such an infinitely beautiful place, as the Law of Attraction dictates that whatever can be imagined and held in the mind’s eye is achievable if you take action on a plan to get to where you want to be.”
My issue with the Law of Attraction is purely how part of me thinks that people stretched it by writing whole £15 books on it but everybody must get their coin somehow so I respect the hustle. However, I think the pure concept behind gearing your thoughts towards positivity and things that you want to materialise in your life is a good thing.
Flipping this concept to religious terms, I believe The Law of Attraction is valid through prayer. Change the concept of asking the universe for things to asking God or Allah, and you have prayer. No matter how far-fetched something seems, those with strong faith believe prayer can pull you through anything, thus shadowed with the Law of Attraction. By using the Law of Attraction, you are putting out positive energy into the universe. You are asking the universe for something purely through your thoughts. Prayer does similar things. A common principle through religion is simply what you put in, you shall receive - basically karma.
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap
If you do good, you do good to yourselves. (likewise)
If you do evil, you do evil to yourselves.
(Qur'an: Chapter 17, Verse 7)
Karma - Action driven by intention, which leads to future consequences.
Karma - A concept in Hinduism which explains causality (the relationship between cause and effect) through a system where beneficial effects are derived from past beneficial actions and harmful effects from past harmful actions, creating a system of actions and reactions throughout a soul's lifetime. Karma is applicable not only to the material world but also to our thoughts, words, actions and actions that others do under our instructions.
And so on…
Side note: I was born into Islam, went to a C of E Primary School where we would say grace before we ate lunch and sang hymns daily. My parents left my brother and I to grow up without a set religion and allowed us to choose our own religious path when we felt ready. For example, I grew up not eating pork because it is haram, yet singing hymns about Jesus being the son of God. What I know for sure is that I believe in God. Currently, I am on a journey to discover what I truly believe religiously.
Aside from religion, we learn that our actions always have consequences. I believe harnessing the Law of Attraction, through positive affirmations, is just one way to alter your perception of things in life to work in your favour.
You must look at the things you say as a direct reflection of your thoughts, and therefore your actions. You are constantly manifesting, even in through the jokes you make. A friend joking on future misfortune is sending a message of what they are thinking and will carry out actions to enable this misfortune.
Proclaiming you can’t do something, which you know you could do with hard work, is summoning failure into your lie. In this situation, if you do fail, you won’t be as bothered because you never whole-heartedly thought you could achieve what you wanted to. You attracted failure from the start.
You must be clear on what you want to achieve and speak positively on it. Affirmations of positivity, for example, when I wake up every morning I say, “Thank you God.” within the first 30 minutes of me being awake (because I check my phone first and then remember I haven’t even shown gratitude for the fact I have been given another day). I then think about what I need to do for the day to be successful. It doesn’t always work as simply as that, but the things I really set my mind to, I execute that day.
I never realised my parents used this principle in my household. I would say something like, “Ah I shouldn’t have done that I’m so stupid!”, and my mum would reply, “You’re stupid? I don’t remember raising a stupid child. Are you stupid?”. This was her way of getting me to think over what I just said. I would then say something like, “Ok I’m not stupid I just made a mistake”, and she would say, “We all make mistakes, but you’re never stupid.”
That mindset and attitude towards negative words bred confidence within our household.
Even to this day on my kitchen wall at home lies these statements:
If a child lives with ridicule she learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame he learns to feel guilt.
If a child lives with criticism she learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility he learns to fight.
If a child lives with tolerance she learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence.
If a child lives with security she learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval he learns to like himself.
I think the key thing to understand here is time. You cannot affirm something big today and watch it happen tomorrow. We have a habit in this generation of thinking that everything should materialise instantly, because were so used to instant gratification through social media, that we don’t realise how much time it takes to build something great. You can’t start using the Law of Attraction today and see amazing, life changing results tomorrow.
The Secret’s best principle, in my eyes, is the concept of ask, believe, receive.
Ask the universe (or your God) for what you want.
Believe you deserve it and you will receive it.
Receive the blessing once you have started working towards it.
If it’s easier, take all the negatives in your life, list them and flip them.
A lot of us as human beings gravitate towards negativity first before positivity.
So heres 3 things I want you to take away from this post: